18-Dec-2006
Accept that she will and should lie to spare your feelings, and don’t get mad if you catch her in one. If she tells you she’s already seen Shrek 2, but then you spot her in the audience with a small child, don’t freak out. The sting in your ego will soon dissipate.
DO NOT try to “stay friends.” This can only lead to a friendship in which one person has all the power, a prolonged dynamic in which one ego gets fed and you keep pining and hoping.
RESIST the urge to keep trying. Suck it up. And for Pete’s sake, show some pride.
DO NOT interpret silence for fear, wanting to take it slow, etc… Interested people will make it clear. If you’re not sure, be blunt and ask.
DO NOT stalk her. Resist the urge to drive by her house or to hang for hours at her favorite café.
If she goes out on a date with you, then tells you she’s realized she’s not really ready for a relationship, DO NOT check her internet personal ad to see if she’s still looking for someone.
Obey the rule of two refusals: If she turns down two invitations, it’s up to her to renew the invitation.
