06-Jun-2006
If you must have it, be honest with your partner. Bring her in on the secret—even use it as foreplay. If she benefits from your cyberhabit, she’s much less likely to feel resentful. Tell her you want to be her personal porn star, and that porn stars use fluffers all the time. (A fluffer is the person who gets the porn star heated up so she or he can perform. Not bad work, if you can find it.)
If you don’t have a partner, too much cyber will keep you from getting out of the house. It can also keep you from sleeping, paying your bills, and eating. Poor posture is usually not a turn on for others. Do not attempt to form a relationship in the real world with your cyber-lover. I’m not saying it can’t happen. I’m just saying it’s the least efficient way to get good results, especially when the pool is saturated with straight men, married women, and terminal slouch potatoes like myself.
